Adoption is one of the most beautiful things in the world.
When a child needs a home, one is provided for them. And to be honest SO many others benefit from the whole process.
Here is a short list as to why adoption is one of the most beneficial things which can happen in a city.
1. Adoption Helps Your Family
My family has adopted two children through our local foster care agency. So I can speak to this one from direct experience. And as members of our city, our familial benefits also benefit the community at large.
First and foremost, it has allowed us to become a part of the world which most of American society glosses over. We get to see into the lives of people who live in great poverty and help them (as much as we can) in their difficult situations.
I’m not saying that everyone who puts up a child for adoption is in poverty, but for us and our experience, it has tremendously benefited us. It opened our eyes to the hurting people in the world. This has put compassion and understanding in our hearts, when there were only stereotypes and misunderstandings before that.
Not to mention the major trauma which all adopted children face regardless of situation. And for those who experienced even more trauma (our adopted children were both placed in our homes within the first few months of their lives), there’s even more to learn in our families about suffering, redemption, and unconditional love.
Secondly, it has helped us understand our faith. As we are all adopted children into God’s family1, it is a clear picture of what exactly that means. We have the honor of seeing through God’s eyes. As we love this child who did not come from our bodies – unconditionally and as much as our biological children – we get to feel what God feels toward us.
And we get to teach all our kids this stuff. What a blessing, right?#Adoption allows us to see part of the world which most of society glosses over. Click To Tweet
2. Adoption Helps the Adopted Child
We legally change the names of the children we adopt. It is as much of a picture of reality, as it is a desire of us as parents.
The metaphor of the name change is this: The child had an identity prior to becoming part of our family. This identity carried with it a path in life. And that path, in our scenarios as well as in most, would have otherwise lead to suffering and destruction. Generational habits of poor decisions, harmful lifestyles, as well as systemic injustices.
But with a new name comes a new identity. With a new path for life. The cycle is broken.
The child becomes free to seek a better life with more opportunities. Additionally, in our circumstances, our children are now given the chance to experience a richer faith with a consistent support system: our family, AND our church.
3. Adoption Helps Broken Households
We believe this is healthy. Rather than hiding the adoption, as if it is something to be ashamed of, we celebrate it. We want our adopted children to know their birth families. We’re not so insecure in our love as to think they should be hidden.
This has been extremely welcome from those birth mothers. It also gives them hope that their own households can flourish when they see their own flesh and blood flourishing in our home.
Moreover, it gave them the opportunity to get on their feet when they were unable to care for a child on their own. This sets them up for future success as they build their households.
As we see this relationships strengthening in the future, we hope to be even more of a support to them.
4. Adoption Helps the Economy
One – an adopted child, who often comes from an impoverished situation, will not grow up to be a burden to the state. Tax money, which would have otherwise been put toward a fragmented development, can now be put toward other programs.
Two – this adopted child will grow up with more opportunities (See #2 above). In the case of our children, we are teaching them to be self-supportive, to be an active member of society, and to help others in need. With another citizen adding to the common welfare, it only can help the economy grow. At least grow more than it would have otherwise grown.#Adoption used to be shameful. Hidden. Now, it is held up as an objective good! Click To Tweet
5. Adoption Helps the Culture
But now, it is widely held up as the objective good that it is.
I don’t say this because I personally want praise for adopting – My wife and I, at least at first, got into foster care and adoption out of selfish reasons. We could not have anymore children of our own, due to complications during delivery. We wanted to grow our family, so we looked for an option we could afford financially.
But whatever your scenario is, God loves adoption. The Apostle James said, “Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows…2“.
As adoption becomes more and more accepted within culture, more children will be taken care of. More families will be helped. And we will be more in line with what God wants for us.
6. Adoption Helps the Church
As stated in #1 above, adopting children helps our families understand our faith. How much more does it help the church?
We come together as a community of faith, loving one another, and helping families through difficulties related to childhood trauma and adoption.
When we do, it strengthens all of us. We better understand those who suffer in our world. We better understand how to serve selflessly. We literally save children from lives of suffering when we care for the hurting children together.
Are you convinced yet?
Adoption is worth your time. It is worth it for those around you in your communities and your cities.
Adoption is not easy. It is full of difficulties you could not have previously imagined.
But it is worth it.
Find your local foster care agency, or your local private adoption agency. Call them up. Those children are waiting for you.
And Christ is calling for it.
Also published on Medium.
- For those who are led by the Spirit of God are the children of God. The Spirit you received does not make you slaves, so that you live in fear again; rather, the Spirit you received brought about your adoption to sonship. And by him we cry, “Abba, Father.” The Spirit himself testifies with our spirit that we are God’s children. Now if we are children, then we are heirs—heirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory.
- James 1:27